Special words and terms have been developed in BDSM & Swinging as they do in all social activities. Many of the words and terms are slang and may change or cease to be used with time. As BDSM & Swinging is a growing lifestyle, new words and terms are likely to be developed. As with most slang, many of the words and terms are regional in use. A number of the words and terms are used primarily in personal ads and letters in reply to personal ads. 

AC/DC - Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual. 

ADULT - Euphemism for pornographic. 

ALL CULTURES  - Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)

ANAL - Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture. 

ANIMAL TRAINING - Sexual activity with animals usually dogs and women; Bestiality 

ARTS - Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures 

B&D - Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) 

BBW - Abbreviation for "Big Beautiful Woman". 

BESTIALITY - (see ANIMAL TRAINING) 

BI - Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)

BIZARRE - Unusual sexual desires; Way out

BONDAGE - A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive." 

CAN ENTERTAIN  - Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging. 

CAN TRAVEL - Advertiser will travel to your home to swing. 

CANING - A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

CHEATING -  Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and consent.

CLEAN - Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

CLOSED DOOR  - (see CLOSED SWINGING) 

CLOSED SWINGING - Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. The rooms are almost always in the same house.

CLOSET SWINGER - A person who hides the he/she is a swinger.

COUPLE - In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes; CPL

CPL - Couple 

CULTURE - Euphemism for Fetish, Arts 

ENGLISH CULTURE - Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning  

FRENCH CULTURE - Oral-genital sexual activity. 

GREEK CULTURE - Anal-penile intercourse  

ROMAN CULTURE - Sexual orgies  

SWEDISH CULTURE - Use of the hands especially in massage to  sexually stimulate another. 

CUNNILINGUS - Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE) 

DILDO - An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus 

DIRECTOR - The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally call a Manager. 

DISCIPLINE - A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.

DISCRETION - Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity. 

DOCILE - Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE). 

DOMESTIC TRAINING - Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature. 

DOMINANT (DOM) - The sexual partner in control of the willing submissive partner.

ENTERTAIN - (see CAN ENTERTAIN) 

EXHIBITIONIST - A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts. 

F - Female 

FELLATIO - Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth. 

FEMALE EJACULATION - Some women have the ability to squirt ejaculate from their vagina during orgasm. A talent referred to as "squirting", and/or "gushing" dependant on the amount of ejaculate. Contrary to what some people think, the fluid ejaculated is NOT urine. Like a man, a woman cannot urinate during orgasm.

FETISH - Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy 

FLAGELLATION - Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.

FUN AND GAMES - Euphemism for sexual activity.

GAY - A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian. 

GENEROUS - Refers to money for sex. 

GOLDEN SHOWERS - Scenes where persons pee or urine on one another (see WATERSPORTS). 

GROUP ROOM - Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM). 

GROUP SEX - Swinging; Social-sexual activity between three or more people.

GROWTH SWINGING - Social-sexual environment that promotes emotional, personal and social growth 

HARD CORE - A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected. 

HARD SWINGING - (see HARD CORE) 

HEAD - Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" 

HEDONIST (Swinging) - Euphemism for a swinger; Lives for pleasure. 

HETEROSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex. 

HOMOSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY) 

HORNY - Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure. 

HUMANIST - Person who believes in human values, potential, self-respect of the individual, personal freedom and human rights. 

HUNG - Refers to a man with a large penis. 

INDOOR SPORTS - Swinging activities in general. 

INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP - Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads 

LEATHER - A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments. 

LESBIAN - A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women (see GAY)

MARITAL AIDS - Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others. 

MASOCHISM - Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others. 

MASTER/SLAVE - Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) 

MATROOM - Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM). 

MEET FOR PLEASURE - Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads. 

MENAGE A' TROIS - Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. {see THREESOME, TRIAD) 

MORESOMES - More than three people in a swinging interaction. 

NASCA - The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become, to give a national voice to the growing swinging community and to promote the development of ethical swing clubs. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research. 

NEWBIES - (see NEWCOMERS)

NEWCOMERS - New people in swinging; First-timers

NONSMOKER - Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes. 

OPEN DOOR - (see OPEN SWINGING) 

OPEN SWINGING - A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S ) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party. 

ORAL-GENITAL - (see CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD) 

ORGY - Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex. 

PAIN SLUT - A BDSM term referring to a person who seeks and desires large amounts of extreme pain.

PARTY - Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging. 

PARTY CLOTHES - Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play. 

PARTY HOUSE (Western US ) - A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. 

PASSIVE - Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging (see DISCIPLINE) 

PHOTO - Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others. 

PHOTOGRAPHY - Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs. 

PLUMPER - (see BBW)

P/P - Photo and phone number (used in personal ads). 

PRO - Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts. 

RECREATIONAL SWINGER - A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment. 

RESTRAINT - Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments. 

ROMAN - Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN) 

RUBBER - Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D. 

SADISM - The act of inflicting pain on another person for pleasure. (see SADIST)

SADIST - One who derives pleasure from inflicting pain on another.

SAFE - Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy. 

S.A.S.E. - Self-addressed stamped envelope. 

SGL - Single person. 

S&M - Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).

SCENE - A scene is a BDSM interaction between 2 or more people, usually performed in front of an audience.

SINGLE - A swinger without a partner, single or married. 

SOCIAL - A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social but privately arranged swinging may follow a social. 

SOCIAL SWING CLUB - A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important. 

SOFT SWINGING - A social, erotic swing party environment where sexual activity is common and available, but not required or assumed. Sometimes used to describe swapping up to, but not including intercourse. The term developed in Southern California in the early 1970's (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE). 

SQUIRTING - A woman squirting ejaculate from her vagina during orgasm (see FEMALE EJACULATION)

S.T.D. or STD - Sexually transmitted disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem. 

STR - (see STRAIGHT) 

STRAIGHT - Non-swinger; A Swinger who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; A person who does not use drugs. 

SUBMISSIVE (SUB or SUBBIE) - A BDSM term for one who gives themselves over willingly to a Dominant. Most often to be subjected to spanking, and torture of varying degrees. Fully consensual only!

SWAPPING - Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. 

SWING MAGAZINE - A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community. 

SWINGING - Social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved. 

SWINGING LIFESTYLE - Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships. 

SWINGING MARRIAGE - Marriage incorporating swinging and often, hedonistic ideals. 

SUBMISSIVE - (see PASSIVE) 

THREESOME - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a' trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship. 

TICKET - A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing. 

TOYS - Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS) 

TRAVEL - (see CAN TRAVEL) 

TRIAD - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome. 

TRIOLISM - Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD) 

TUBAL LIGATION - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile; A method of contraception. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation. 

UTOPIAN SWINGER - A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with hedonistic ideals. 

VASECTOMY - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile; A method of contraception. 

VERSATILE - Bisexual. (see AC/DC) 

VIBRATOR - Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another. 

VOLUPTUOUS - Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips. 

VOYEUR - A person who enjoys and is stimulated by watching others in sexual acts. 

WATERSPORTS - Play involving persons urinating or peeing on one another. May also involve drinking urine (see TEA ROOM).